How To Make Him Want You

 Do you ever get a gut feeling about someone the instant you meet them?

When that happens, you know it’s not because of what they said or did. It’s some kind of signal you read in their facial expression, vocal tone, or body language.

Surprisingly, researchers have found that we are quite accurate with these instantaneous assessments about other people.

The simple fact is, you know things about a person the second you meet them. And you react to these unspoken signals automatically.

If you’re good at reading people, you may not find it surprising to learn that men and women notice different kinds of signals when interacting with a potential mate.

To skip ahead to the video that explains the unusual pattern of signals men look for in a romantic relationship, just follow this link.

It explains the hidden signal that either repels a man or makes him feel irresistibly attracted to you.

Otherwise, keep reading to learn about a particular signal you’re broadcasting to men all the time (whether you know it or not). It’s probably not what you would expect.

You see, there’s a specific kind of body language men simply can’t ignore. It’s a signal that can spark romantic feelings. Or it can repel him, depending on what he’s reading from your nonverbal cues.

Would you like to know what it is?

Men Are Extremely Sensitive to Something in Your Body Language That You Would Never Expect.

Women often ask me for the words to make a man want you. But the secret to make someone fall in love with you goes a bit deeper.

In fact, your ability to broadcast the right non-verbal message makes all the difference when it comes to attracting the kind of man you want. 

If you’ve been attracting attention from guys who fail to connect with you on a deep, emotional level, I may be able to show you why. 

You’re probably sending out just one very confusing signal...without even realizing it.

With the wrong signal, you end up with this:

• Attention from the wrong kind of guys. The ones you aren’t interested in.
• Initial attraction that later fades with the one guy you really wanted to attract.
• A slow and painful death for the attraction and passion in your existing relationship.

But with a slight adjustment, you could be sending the right signal all the time. And you’d end up getting results more like this:

• Passion that intensifies the longer you’re together
• A guy who clearly feels protective of you
• A deep feeling of private exclusivity as he lets you into his inner world
• The difference can be dramatic. And it all comes down to this one signal I’m about to show you. 

In order to explain this signal, think of yourself as a radio tower.

You are constantly broadcasting a message to the men in your life. And there’s one “channel” he can’t tune out.

That’s because men have emotional “antennas” designed specifically to detect this one kind of signal.

Ready to find out which signal I’m talking about? Ok, here it is. 

He reads your nonverbal cues to find out where you “rank him” compared with other men.

He reads your body language to see how he measures up in your eyes. Does she respect me? Or am I just her play thing?

Does she look up to me in some ways? Does she value me compared to other men? Or is she just settling?

Why are men so sensitive to this one signal? 

Because, oddly enough, this signal tells him how you compare him to other men. So it influences how he feels about himself whenever he’s around you.

And it’s amazing how much this one signal affects his emotions. 

You see, in relationships, people don’t tell us what we really want to know. We have to listen to what’s written between the lines.

This kind of “listening” determines how we feel about each person we meet. And when it comes to romantic relationships, it tells us far more than spoken words.

Now tell me this. Which man would you rather commit to for life?

A man who compliments your beauty but seems to have difficulty keeping his eyes off other women? 

Or a man who is reserved with his compliments, but seems to have eyes only for you? 

The truth is, no one wants to end up with someone who is just settling. Instead, you want to feel desired. 

Men are no different. But what makes men feel desired is very different from what makes women feel desired. 

For example, research shows men often confuse love and respect. A man does not want to be loved by a romantic partner unless she also holds him in high regard compared with other men. 

Otherwise, it just feels like motherly love. That’s not what he wants. It’s not how he wants to perceive himself in his primary relationship. 

And that’s why...

Women often send mixed signals to the guy they’re interested in without even knowing it. 

It happens accidentally. And I have to tell you, it’s not your fault. 

Society has changed too fast for men and women to adapt to the rapid changes. We are left scrambling.

In nearly every culture there used to be a clear set of expectations. Those expectations guided men and women through the process of connecting with a lifelong partner.

Demonstrations of mutual admiration were built into the process of courtship. 

But those clear expectations are a thing of the past. These days, each couple has to invent their own path, dancing around unspoken expectations and feelings of uncertainty. 

And there’s something that often gets lost in our modern version of courtship. 

I’m talking about the ancient art of communicating desire through the language of admiration. It’s where the phrase, “You have an admirer” came from.

He doesn’t want you to settle.

He wants to feel like you see him as the ultimate catch. 

Otherwise, it deflates his ego. And with it, his passion for the relationship deflates too. 

He just can’t picture himself with a woman who looks up to other men more than she looks up to him. 

But this is where things get confusing.

Many women want to make their man feel loved. 

But a woman’s idea of loving communication is very different than a man’s. 

How do you communicate your true feelings to a man? And why are men so sensitive to tiny signals about where you rank him compared with other men? 

To dive a little deeper into that particular question, I put together a video presentation on the topic. 

It explains the most powerful signals you can use to grab a man’s attention. 

After watching this video, many women are surprised to learn how much control they have over a man’s self-esteem. 

And even more surprised by how easy it is to make someone cherish you and want to invest in the relationship. 

Many of us have a tendency to buy gifts of the sort we would like to receive ourselves. It can be like that with love. We try to love our partner the way we want to be loved. 

So you make him feel special. Yet he seems unaffected by that. You speak your own native love language to him. Apparently, he speaks another. 

But I’m here to tell you about one incredible, universal method you can use to grab his attention by showing that you get what he craves most. 

Click here now to discover an unfair advantage with men. Help him to finally see you as the one.

References:

Harry's Masculinity Report 201.  Men are happiest when a part of something where they feel needed and valued. 

Anderson, Cameron & Hildreth, John & Howland, Laura. (2015). Is the Desire for Status a Fundamental Human Motive? A Review of the Empirical Literature. Psychological bulletin. 141. 10.1037/a0038781. - Male need for respect. 

Gender Differences in Implicit Self-Esteem Following a Romantic Partner's Success or Failure," Kate A. Ratliff, PhD, University of Florida, and Shigehiro Oishi, PhD, University of Virginia; Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, online Aug. 5, 2013. - Men have lower self-esteem when their partner succeeds and they fail (i.e. they don't feel needed/irreplaceable). 

Canevello A, Crocker J. Creating good relationships: Responsiveness, relationship quality, and interpersonal goals. J Pers Soc Psychol. 2010;99(1):78-106. doi:10.1037/a0018186 - Showing him you believe in him and he's the one for the job. 

Reis HT, Lemay Jr EP, Finkenauer C. Toward understanding understanding: The importance of feeling understood in relationships. Social and Personality Psychology Compass. 2017:11(3):e12308. doi:10.1111/spc3.12308 - You value his point of view and abilities.

Why Men Pull Away

And how you can tap into his deep desire for commitment...

Maggie was confused. Rick had blown her away on their first two dates. No guy had ever worked so hard to impress her.

And impressed she was. He was attentive, respectful, gentle and engaged.

But then, just when she decided she'd fallen for him...poof. He withdrew.

Now their roles had reversed. Overnight, she was working to get his attention.

Why do men do that? Why do men shut women out?

Certainly, not every man pulls away when things start to heat up, but a lot of guys do.

Enough, in fact, that this is a common question among the women I work with as a dating and relationship coach.

Guys come on strong, pursuing with enough passion to make Romeo jealous, but when they win the attention of their Juliet, it's game over.

What gives?

Look, dating's a tough gig. Yes, it's fun and exciting, but it's also nerve-racking.

At first, it's all about the chase. He's trying to get your attention, and you're deciding whether or not he's worth it.

That's the time in any dating relationship when both people are so wrapped up in the pursuit that they're hardly giving any thought to what will come next.

And then, the pursuit changes.

You decide you're into the guy, and he, having won your attention, has to begin the process of considering an actual, serious relationship. Does he want one?

More than likely he does, or he wouldn't have been chasing you!

But, wanting it and being fearless enough to really go after it are two different things.

So, what's a girl to do?

Well, first I'll tell you what you should NOT do.

Avoid These Two Common Mistakes

First, don't assume it's about you. It almost certainly isn't. He was into you before you decided you were into him. He's still into you, now.

Second, don't pressure him. This is where a lot of the advice columns get it wrong. They often say you should play "hard to get" or some version of it.

Instead, let him know you're interested in him.

Do it in ways that don't smother or push. (Text messages every hour, on the hour, for example, might be over-doing it.)

Why do men pull away and shut women out at this phase of a relationship? Because he's a little nervous. He's nervous about giving up the freedom of choice.

Don't change, be the woman he fell in love with

During the pursuit phase, it's desire that motivates him. As soon as he realizes this could be something real, his motivation shifts.

Suddenly he's thinking about the many options he will give up, and the lifestyle changes he's committing to.

(A lot of guys have an irrational fear that all their activities will all become feminized if they commit to a woman.)

When he's acting this way, you don't have to change what you're doing. When he acts distant, your best bet is to appear calm and comfortable.

Be the woman he fell in love with (carefree, confident, and available).

Don't freak out—that'll freak him out. Don't demand his attention—that'll send him running. And don't launch into a panic that he's seen some fatal flaw in you.

Because that thought process will put you in a negative frame of mind, and that's anything but attractive.

Always Assume The Best

He pursued you for the first few dates, hoping you'd decide you were into him. He's gone out on a limb before.

Now it's your turn. Give him enough space to feel comfortable while still letting him know you're interested.

Any guy who truly wants a mature, real relationship will come around as soon as he sees there's nothing there to be afraid of.

And any guy who's not ready for a real relationship wasn't the catch you thought he was, anyway!

Now, before you settle into "waiting mode," I'd like to share a shortcut that can pull him back and rekindle his passionate pursuit at lightning speed.

There's nothing wrong with being patient, but if you want to pour a little miracle grow on your relationship, here's what I recommend you do next...

When He Shuts You Out, Try This...

Survey research shows men would rather be respected than loved. It's wired into our DNA.

We feel an irrational need to earn your respect as an avenue to becoming worthy of your love.

Now look, as a male dating coach working primarily with women, I know how crazy this must sound to you. But it's true.

It's one of the few "secrets" that really can give you an unfair advantage with men.

Here's how this knowledge can help.

If you channel a man's deep desire to earn your respect in the right ways, he will bend over backward for you.

And the more he does this, the easier it becomes for him to see himself in a long-term committed relationship with you.

And his favorite way to earn your respect?

He wants to be heroic. He wants to solve problems for you, come to your aid, and prove himself useful.

It's not very romantic, but it's woven into the fabric of his DNA.

And that's why I've put together a video explaining this phenomenon further so you can tap into his hero instinct anytime you want, even if he's currently asking for space.

Click here now to make this method yours before you forget and miss this opportunity to transform your luck with men.

How do I Make Him Fall Back in Love with Me?

Relationships often go in cycles. Sometimes things are up and it all seems like smooth sailing. At other times, you drift apart and the waters are choppy and sharks seem to be circling. Sometimes you break up. Other times your relationship simply limps along. That loving feeling you used to have together feels like it's gone for good. But, what if you could get it back? What steps do you need to take to make him fall back in love with YOU?

Treat Yourself Like the Lady You Are

Sometimes you forget to treat yourself like a lady. You forget that you need a little pampering. You need to feed your soul. More importantly, you need to take care of yourself -- physically. You need to eat right, exercise, take care of your skin, get a new hair cut, etc. You need to feel good about the reflection you see in the mirror. You need to do all the things a lady does to feel like someone who deserves to have doors opened for her as well as other acts of chivalry. Once you start treating yourself like a lady, chances are he's going to notice and start treating you like a lady too.

Remember that this is about making you happy. Make changes that matter to you -- that will help you feel better about yourself and more confident. Some of the changes you might consider include:

•    Diet/Weight loss
•    Fitness
•    Makeover
•    Wardrobe update
•    Spa treatment
•    New hairstyle
•    Manicure
•    Pedicure
•    Teeth whitening

The changes do not have to be drastic in order to have a drastic impact on your self-confidence and outlook on the world around you. Nor, do they need to be major overhauls to get him to take notice. The main take away from this, however, is not that he won't love you if you're imperfect. It is that it is easier for him to fall back in love with you if you aren't busy tearing yourself down for perceived flaws instead.

Fall in Love with the Woman You Are
While it's always good to strive for improvement, it's also important that you love yourself for the woman you are. He will find it much easier to love you all over again if you love yourself as well. I'm not suggesting that you become a woman who is self-absorbed or self-obsessed. Only that you accept yourself for who you are and find peace with that. Embrace your strengths. Work to change your weaknesses, but don't punish yourself for being human. All of us are. Once you learn to love yourself, you'll be a much happier, person he's likely to find irresistible.

You don't have to move mountains or make miracles to win back his love. Love may ebb and flow over time but it takes a while to go away completely. The odds are in your favor that if he's loved you before, you can easily win back his love once you learn to love yourself too.